The society dictates what is acceptable, tolerable, attractive and even what will bring a man the prestige among his peers he might desire, and in most cases the women they choose either fulfill these needs or are expected to conform to them somehow.

And often, at least according to my Japanese male friends, those stereotypes involve aggressive attitudes, impatience, sexual promiscuity, and resistance to compliance. And while some of those same stereotypes apply to NJ men, the Japanese women who are attracted to NJ men are generally (in my experience) attracted to and are frankly expecting those qualities from NJ men (and may or may not be receptive if they’re not present).

Chauvinism and misogyny are male attributes that are present all over the world, and Japan is no exception.

He has spent the last 5 years living on small islands in Okinawa. I spent five days with her family prior to popping the question and that gave me a great chance to see if I fit in with them. Of course proposals are pretty different in Japan and the US, but I managed a hybrid approach which is pretty much how I see our life together going forward.” “Back in the States there are a million ways to meet people and start up a conversation.

In August 2013 Ben participated in the popular Japanese TV show Motemote 99 where he met a wonderful Japanese women. In Japan, women and men tend to socialize separately, so unless you find someone at work (which has its own issues), you’re limited in the ways you might meet a potential date.

The modern version of the omiai (arranged marriage) seems to be working quite well for us.

Living in different prefectures we never would have met without the show.” “One big difference I’ve found is that there are fewer places here in Japan where it’s seemly to approach women.

It could be true some of the time, but I think people can find the type of personality they’re compatible with in any culture.

I never found it easy to ‘get’ a Japanese woman, then again, my fiancé and I met on a Japanese TV show for the express purpose of finding someone to marry.

One good option is joining a community club or activity, though then there’s no telling if they’ll fit your age range.