At 20, she had me and for the next three years, my father harassed her over money (she made much more than him); he also let her know that, while she may have had straight As in high school, he, a junior high dropout, was the smarter of the pair.

to dating older men-23

I specified that I would date men in their early thirties to early forties - “no exceptions", I wrote.

A few men didn't listen, but I managed to weed out most of them.

Eventually, we arranged to meet at a cafe near my apartment.

At the meeting, we spent over an hour discussing his writing.

Such mansplaining is one of the many reasons I don't want to date significantly older men.

While sexism knows no age barrier, in my experience, the older men I've met are far less likely to treat me as an equal.However, their age difference could not compensate for my father's insecurity over being with someone who had achieved more academically and professionally than he had.This revelation soured me against dating any man who was more than a few years older. Last year, after a hiatus from online dating, I decided to return.Shortly after I completed college, my dad confided in me that he had never loved my mother.When I asked why he married her, he told me it was because he was ready to have a kid and she was young and pretty - and if he had a daughter, he wanted her to be pretty, too.At 33, I found it much harder to meet men than it had been in my early twenties.