Throw in the French accent and the wry sense of humour, and Lessard just might be the total package. “Some women here have a really unrealistic vision of what a man is supposed to be.They don’t accept that men are what they are; the women have been burned a couple of times, they’ve read all the articles, they have a checklist: uh oh, he didn’t shave for three days. They believe their own conclusions about what a good guy is and what non-relationship material is; some weird criteria.”Kevin Quinlan, whose job as director of policy and communication for Mayor Gregor Robertson keeps him on call, even when he’s on a date, says he doesn’t buy into the idea that Vancouver is the problem.“Vancouver is an incredibly diverse place.Generalizations obscure the fact that there are so many people with different interests.

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So, why is it so hard to meet someone in Vancouver? Is it part of the city’s identity that the dating scene is as tricky to negotiate as its landscape, divided by waterways and forbidding mountains?

Is it the way the city is spread out and shuts down early, its denizens more likely to rise at dawn to pound up the North Shore mountains on their bikes before work than lie in and roll over for a little good morning sex? Is it seasonal affective disorder, a collective low libido?

For a lark one night, she posted a personal ad on Craigslist. Once they saw it, their pictures started coming in. Even before the article ran, women were, well, bitching.

“My friends and I talk about this all the time,” says Radu.

With a history of committed monogamous relationships, she finds Vancouver’s dating culture challenging compared to other cities, like New York, where she has had more success.

Guys have a hard time, too Ron Lee, 36, a marketer who ran a dating coaching service for many years in Vancouver, agrees that it’s tough to make a connection in this city.

Sebastien Lessard, 37, who came to Vancouver from Quebec City seven years ago, can attest to the intimidation factor.

“This is typical of a woman’s online profile: here’s a picture of me on top of a mountain, here’s one of me winning an award, here’s me in Vegas.

“There is a lack of sexuality in Vancouver,” says Derkson, bluntly.