She also finds it easier to connect outside of Vancouver: she met her most recent love interest at a wedding in France.

Although she works at the Bottleneck and comes in contact with a great number of men, she finds most her age are married.

There’s also a Rainbow Mixer planned for February 21 for LGBTQ folks, where ice-breaking games and, of course, cuddling with cats will definitely be going down.

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So, why is it so hard to meet someone in Vancouver? Is it part of the city’s identity that the dating scene is as tricky to negotiate as its landscape, divided by waterways and forbidding mountains?

Is it the way the city is spread out and shuts down early, its denizens more likely to rise at dawn to pound up the North Shore mountains on their bikes before work than lie in and roll over for a little good morning sex? Is it seasonal affective disorder, a collective low libido?

She loves rap music, craft beer, and she probably has crumbs on her keyboard right now.

Sebastien Lessard, is a 37-year-old single guy living in Vancouver.

The women at the back table of the Bottleneck bar on Granville Street are a cluster of long locks, funky accessories, a mix of tanned and fair, naturally athletic bodies and discreetly dabbed lip gloss.

The conversation about the impossibility of finding man-love in Lotus Land ricochets between raucous laughter and thoughtful reflection until the table goes silent and the subject finally sinks, like a stone thrown in an impossibly dark wishing well.“This is not a lighthearted issue,” says Jodi Derkson.

He’s dated five years younger than his age, and up to 15 years older.

Throw in the French accent and the wry sense of humour, and Lessard just might be the total package.

She’d be happy with just a little more warmth and sensuality. Rachel Fox, a 34-year-old writer, says her experiences of meeting men in other cities, like New York, where she used to live, are incredibly different than in Vancouver: “The pool is a lot bigger there.

I was dating every night.” Fox has an endearing, girl-next-door vibe: Zooey Deschanel with a healthy scoop of irreverent wench. “We are ghettoized, we don’t intermingle and the landscape isn’t conducive to community.”Sara Stocksand, 38 years old and single for a few years, isn’t afraid to say she wants the whole package, including marriage and children.

“There is a lack of sexuality in Vancouver,” says Derkson, bluntly.