Thanks to her mother, who had always been open and positive about sex, Trace applied at Venus Envy when she was 22 and was hired.

Maybe even asking your partner to help you empty your catheter bag before you go to sleep.

Any of those scenarios would do a number on your self-esteem.

Because she is missing her leg, she also has only half a bum and half a pelvis, and she was worried that her vagina was disfigured—she’d never compared hers to anyone else’s.

Growing up in Brampton, Ont., Dixon’s sex education came entirely from friends (and one incident where, at her mom’s insistence, she and her older brother practiced rolling condoms onto bananas).

I guess we had one day when we were brought to the gym [to learn].

But I didn’t attend gym classes,” says Trace, who’s now an educator at Halifax sex shop Venus Envy and author of get wet. The things some people say will feel good won’t necessarily feel good for me,” says Trace.

For years after Kaleigh Trace, 30, sustained an incomplete spinal cord injury at age 9–which landed her in a wheelchair and affected her mobility, sensation, and bladder control–she received absolutely zero information about sex.

“There wasn’t a lot of [sex ed], especially in rural Canada.

” stress that follows a blind date or the “is-she-into-it? Imagine revealing a hidden physical disability to a date for the first time.

Finding a caregiver who can operate your vibrator for you, or readjust your limbs (and sometimes those of your partner) into the correct positions so you’re comfortable and don’t get pressure sores.

By 19, she’d fallen into a pattern of only making out with men when she was drunk.