Red flags in dating violence
Very Early Warning Sign #3: Entitlement People with a sense of entitlement believe that they deserve special consideration and special treatment.
They may cut in front of others waiting in line, smoke wherever they want, drive any way they want, say anything they like, and do pretty much anything they choose.
Blamers will certainly cause pain for you if you come to love one.
It just recognizes that dating violence usually involves a series of abusive behaviors over a course of time.
Because relationships exist on a spectrum, it can be hard to tell when a behavior crosses the line from healthy to unhealthy or even abusive.
There are obvious red flags to avoid in a prospective lover, such as angry, controlling, possessive, jealous, or violent behavior.
Unfortunately, most abusers are able to mask these tendencies in dating.
" "With all I have to put up with, I deserve to take a few supplies from the office." "With the kind of day I had, you expect me to mow the lawn?
" "All the taxes I pay, and they bother me about this little deduction! Very Early Warning Sign #4 Superiority Superiority is the implication, at least through body language or tone of voice, that someone is better than someone else.Their blame of others can make you look great by comparison: "You're so smart, sensitive, caring, and loving, not like that bitch I used to go out with." "Why couldn't I have met you before that self-centered, greedy, woman I used to date?" "You're so calm and together, and she was so crazy and paranoid." Hearing this kind of thing might make you think that all he really needs is the understanding and love of a good woman to change his luck.This, too, can be seductive in dating, as he will point out ways in which you are superior, too.The most abusive form of hierarchical self-esteem is predatory self-esteem.Resentful people are so caught up in their "rights" and so locked into their own perspectives that they become completely insensitive to the rights and perspectives of others.