Secondly – she was being offered a Short Service Commission (SSC) of 7 years (as was the norm for Women Naval Officers those days).Being in the Education Branch – “A” would spend most of her time on instructional duties teaching Basic Science and Mathematics to Trainee Sailors.I told them that I too have got married recently – but they said that since my husband was a civilian working in a private company – I was not eligible for “spouse posting” benefit. “Don’t worry,” we said, “we will do something.” I rang up a friend in the Education Branch and told him to find out the true facts. I also told him that we were going to take up this matter officially through proper channel.

Her transfer was cancelled and she was allowed to remain in the same billet in Mumbai.

And – her course-mate Lady Naval Officer who was married to a fellow Naval Officer was “accommodated” in some other billet in Mumbai – so that she and her Navy husband could enjoy their “spouse posting” benefit.

Just trying to put his behavior and personality in context. It is hard to give you advice without knowing either of you but these are things you should discuss with him. Their public persona is the most important thing often in the absence of a private persona. But there is a depth of insecurity there too, that I just haven't seen before in previous boyfriends.

I dated an Air Force officer, full of bravado and cocky, but in a genuine way- he was confident, competent, and very skilled at his job. And it makes no sense because he has everything going for him!

“That is not possible…” we said, “You have just spend 6 months here and the normal tenure is 3 years.” “I know, Sir…” she said, “but they want to move me out to accommodate my course-mate who has married a Naval Officer. They want to move her to Mumbai along with him so they can be together. Favoritism and Victimization are two sides of the same coin. If you favour someone – then you end up victimizing someone else.

So we have to exchange places – she comes here in my place – and I have to go out of Mumbai to her place. While trying to favour one Lady Naval Officer for marrying a Navy Officer within the service – you cannot victimize another Lady Officer just because she did not marry a Naval Officer…” I said.

Just started dating an army officer-turned-law-student and not sure what to make of things.

He's definitely very different from all my civilian boyfriends, so I wanted to get some anonymous opinions.

Yes, he had trouble with deeper emotions and basically had a bad joke for most things. They are confident, action oriented, patriotic and decisive.