If you’re feeling weird and embarrassed about online dating, you’re also not alone.

I’m with you and I get you, but we really shouldn’t be embarrassed because we deserve love and fun and happiness, and if it comes from flipping through bios while waiting for an open stall, then cool, that’s time you would have wasted reading bathroom graffiti anyway.

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The second time, I was doing it much more casually, going on every few days when I was stuck on the bus or in a particularly long bathroom line, and just seeing what was out there. But then I realized, eyes red and nose running and my roommates sitting with me in indignant anger on the couch, that I shouldn’t be embarrassed that my people know I have a Tinder account.

And of course, this sporadic perusing was all it took for a guy in my very small, very tight knit, journalism class of 15 to find my profile, screenshot it, and post it to our group Facebook page. Even if they hadn’t seen my profile, they probably already assumed that I had one, because pretty much everyone does or has at some point. I know because I scroll past people I know in real life every day, as evidenced by that dude in my journalism class finding me .

There’s obviously a reason she didn’t think it would work out, so why keep trying to pursue someone who is clearly not interested in you?

Instead, channel your energy into meeting someone else. A general rule: once you’ve sent four messages back and forth, someone should ask someone out — preferably the man. The scenario: “I was really into someone I went on a few dates with, until he told me he was taking down his online dating profile and he wanted me to do the same.” — Jess, 34The problem..the solution: Nothing will scare a girl faster than putting that kind of pressure on her too early into the relationship.

I have downloaded and (and subsequently deleted) Tinder twice.

Once because I was curious and single and looking to mingle, and once because even though I’d reached a place where I was happily unattached, all of my friends were doing it and I had a major case of FOMO.The internet is great and diverse and you may find someone you never thought you needed in a place you never thought to look.Your mom doesn’t really know or care what Tinder is, I promise.Pick something specific she wrote about herself, and ask her a follow-up about it.If nothing else, she’ll admire the fact that you took the time to “get to know” her.The scenario: “One time I was messaging back and forth with a guy for two weeks and having a great conversation, but he was taking too long to ask me out, so I stopped talking to him.” — Kelly, 32The problem..the solution: If you’re into her, ask her out! And if you’re not, why are you still talking to her? When she’s ready to make her exit from the online dating world, she’ll let you know. ” The scenario: “I can’t stand when I get a message that says ‘any fun weekend plans? ” — Laura, 27The problem..the solution: Sending a generic message—especially one as uninteresting as this—is not what’s going to make you stand out from other guys.