That way we're both giving up equal amounts of time and money to check things out and see if things will work out and if we want to do it again.Once we're a real item, then I'll get the check sometimes and he'll get it sometimes, and just go back and forth like that.

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Honestly, are there women out there who will go out with a guy just for the free drinks? But if a guy really expects that he can spend money on a woman and she'll keep going out with him, or that he ‘deserves’ something from her, that's f'ed up," says Diana, 36.

You just don't show up to a date expecting a free meal; you just don't."I think it shouldn't be assumed that he is going to pay.

While it's always fun to be treated by anyone, date or friend, for many, splitting the bill on a date just seems like the "right" thing to do. Before I give anymore away, here's what the ladies had to say about splitting the bill.

It's not only fair, but seems completely normal in a society where the majority of people, no matter their gender, have an income. Whoever asks for the date, should be the one who pays."First date: it's up to whoever asked. But if it's something special that I've set up, it's all on me," says Jen, 36."I think in the beginning, whoever asked for the date should pay, just out of courtesy, and the fun of dating.

We can also go with 'whoever planned the date', if the people in question have very different levels of income. That being said, if I'm going through a tight budget month, I have no problem letting someone else pay until I'm back on my feet.

I figure, karmically, it works out, since I tend to be generous with my money when I have some," says Becky, 29. If we've been together for awhile I'm more open to splitting," says Raquel, 25.

It's really about the courtesy of the guy paying on the first date, and the tacit mutuality of back-and-forth paying after that.

I've seen some absolute RANTS from guys online about women just going out with them for the free meal — this is on their DATING PROFILES, by the way — and that the woman should expect to pay for her own drinks.

You better pick up the tab, or forget it."I'm old school. I think in the end, you can't blame anyone for wanting a free meal.

Yes, splitting is a wonderful idea, but it's really not that simple.

How gender inequality comes into play."When women stop making 77 cents to every dollar a man makes, we'll go dutch.