Not only will this give your life focus and keep you busy, it can build self-esteem.

If you've been down this road before, you know that it's seldom successful.

You remain stuck in the "friend zone," which is relationship purgatory if you have a crush on someone.

That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.

If the object of your affection becomes aware of your intentions, he or she might not reciprocate, and that's going to hurt. Instead of asking someone out on a date and being bold in their intentions, they turn to the soggy milquetoast alternative to dating: "hanging out." Here's how it works: you like someone but you're afraid to let him or her know. It has the trappings of a date—a cozy ambiance, comforting beverages, atmospheric music—while allowing everyone involved to disavow the actual occurrence of a date.

And that just happens to make them more attractive. We have something, or rather Someone, who's eager to give our life a sense of mission, meaning, and value.

At some point, someone decided it wasn't cool to let someone know that you're interested in him or her. That can be the case sometimes, but it's not true if you've taken care of step 1 above.

This kind of fearful hemming and hawing isn't how Christians should do things. I'm not saying that in deference to antiquated courtship rituals. You need a passion, something that excites you and gives your life meaning and purpose.

It should be something thrilling and at least a little daunting.

With the use of modern technology, people can date via telephone or computer or meet in person.

Dating may also involve two or more people who have already decided that they share romantic or sexual feelings toward each other.

It's not terrorism, economic recession, global warming or gasoline prices that could hit per gallon by the time you're done reading this.