But I’m also literally "un-dateable" so what the hell, let’s go."I pray you’re just trying to get laid," says Lauren Handel Zander.

"I think people do a lot of damage thinking they have to be with someone else.""Well, I do believe in finding your soul mate," Zander answers. But she’s talking about scary stuff, like love and commitment, so I hold my breath as she continues. Tear it down."Okay, but isn’t it desperate/psycho to say, "What’s desperate is lying to yourself, and to others," Zander says. And you shouldn’t create fake news for yourself, or what you want in a partner." Fair enough."You can have one sexy picture," says Zander, "but I’d rather see happy pictures where you’re honestly somewhere that’s meaningful to you.

From the content to the photos, Lisa adapts her profile makeovers for every client and their individual needs.

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Another unique aspect of her clientele is that 70% are men vs 30% women.

Lisa said this is because single women are more likely to ask their friends for help, while men tend to be self-conscious about their dating struggles.

"I’ve helped people find the crazy love of their life. "If you look at what’s happening in our culture right now, the biggest thing I want to eradicate is lying. And you also want to give people context—show them your community, your friends."I tell Zander I can’t show my friends in a dating app, because they’re all hotter than me.

But I look at it like this: Who doesn’t want a million dollars? Who’s willing to put in the work to make millions of dollars? I think the number of people willing to put in the work to find their soul mate is around the same range. The dude would automatically start sweating them instead.

You hear these people saying, ‘You have to compromise.’ That’s a lie, to me. Eighty-five percent of what you want is not good, not good enough. “So, there’s a fourth ‘H’ after head, heart, and hoo-ha,” says Zander.

You should be able to find someone you like, you love, you respect, and you want to have sex with.”Okay.

Lisa Hoehn lives by the statement that “online dating doesn’t have to suck,” and she’s making it better for singles — one profile at a time — at Profile Polish.

Combining her writing and online dating expertise, Lisa helps her clients write an authentic dating profile, choose the most attractive photos, and craft response-worthy messages — spending hours getting to know each one so she can meet their specific wants and needs.

There's a scene from a movie in which a dude nicknames another character "Frances Un-dateable" and chases her all over town. "If you’re looking for a life partner, this isn’t going to help." "I don’t know if I believe in life partners," I answer.