You’ll obviously have to sit through a few rants, but any more and you’re turning into their substitute therapist! They may not be ready to commit right away A person going through divorce has been burnt, and they’re going to be wary of the commitment waters for some time.If they’re ready to date, it means that they’ve gotten over (hopefully) their ex and they’re ready to have a relationship with someone.

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In most cases, a divorce is a decision that comes after a lot of pain and heartache, and is usually one that is made after a good deal of thought.

A couple going through a divorce have likely exhausted all possibilities of making things work, and are breaking up a relationship that they once thought would last forever.

At this point, the couple has probably even been living separately, and legalities aside, they are no longer husband and wife, for all intents and purposes.

For a couple like this, dating while going through a divorce isn’t equivalent to an affair or a spur of the moment thing; it’s because for all practical purposes, they’re single and ready to mingle!

Remember this: You don't have to be engaged or married to have true love. She is also the author of her new divorce novel with the same name, as well as her other divorce novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter and columnist for Sun-Times Media.

Let yourself heal from your divorce (which takes at least five years in my opinion) and just enjoy the relationship. Buy yourself a nice piece of jewelry and go on a fun trip with him. Here's my closing advice: Date someone who lets you be who you are, who is kind to you (and your kids), who supports your passion or your career, who is thoughtful, who makes you feel good about yourself and who makes you feel happy and loved. Since they’ve probably been separated a while, they’re craving for some company and intimacy, but at the same time, being in such a vulnerable situation scares them.This can lead to some oscillating between two extremes, which, in all likelihood, will drive you nuts!Blatantly rude, as if his personality had completely changed. The ink on the divorce decree isn't even dry and he or she is talking about marrying you. You're still in that "jump into bed the second you see each other" phase and he or she is talking about ring shopping.The jumper isn't a bad person, just afraid to be alone or trying to compete with his or her ex because that person already has someone. Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling. Dating stinks if you're sitting there smiling and counting the minutes in your head until the food comes so you can get the check and get the heck out of there! He is constantly calling her "the bitch." Or she is telling you about every little thing he does that bothers her (in detailed stories that take a half hour.) The trasher is clearly is not over the anger and bitterness of the separation and needs either time or therapy or both. The Sticker: This person is the opposite of the trasher. I want to clarify that I think it is wonderful when exes can get along and have birthday dinners with their kids as a family, but you will know if it's gone beyond that, so don't fool yourself. The Drinker: When I was going through my divorce, my therapist warned me that people who are going through divorce are be more prone to alcohol addiction for two reasons: One, because they are stressed and they may use alcohol to numb the pain and anxiety of the divorce, and two, because they are often out a lot, at bars and restaurants and on dinner dates, where everyone is drinking.