As a practical matter, are you responsible and holy in the way you possess your own spirit, mind and body?As you move into the stage of life in which you begin to seriously consider marriage generally or a particular relationship, your first step should be to soberly reflect, before God, on your own spiritual walk and maturity in Christ.

For you, being smart means that after you leave the relationship you shouldn’t go back!

When God gave the Israelites an exodus opportunity, they took it. If your relationship is even slightly abusive, consider this your sign to exit the relationship NOW!

More than likely you or someone you know is "messin’ around". Some call it premarital sex; others call it marriage out of wedlock. However, what seems right in the heat of the moment is not worth its cost in the end.

When you have sex with anyone other than your spouse, things happen, bad things.

If you aspire to be a godly husband or wife someday, what have you done and what are you doing to prepare for that ministry?

Second, are you at a place in your life at which you are ready and able to marry?

See what an unsatisfying bumper-sticker treatment that was? Among the different roles assigned to men and women in the Bible, men are assigned the role of leadership. This is not a signal of male superiority or of the greater importance of men.

It is simply God's design and assignment of equally valuable roles among spiritually equal beings. Briefly, biblical support for this position is found, among other passages, in the creation order in Genesis 2, in 1 Corinthians 11: 7-9, and Ephesians 5.

All singles who profess Christ and aspire to marriage — even as a possibility — have this responsibility (even outside this area of life, we should all be trying to grow in Christ). If you're already sure of that basic answer, are you a growing and mature Christian?

Are you generally humble and teachable, and do you respect authority?

If it’s true that you don’t want to look back someday after the romantic feelings subside (and they will), and regret you lost (amongst other blessings) valuable time.