Trevin reding chat - Dating advice for tall women
I asked her six big questions about beauty and femininity, and got some brutal truths in response."I definitely feel like I have to go out of my way to be passive, like I'm not automatically perceived as feminine in the same way I would be if I were even a few inches shorter.
I think I like it better than I would like being really short, though.""I think beautiful is partially how you carry yourself, but I am just like everyone else: I see girls that I wish I looked like and I think, "Oh wow, she's beautiful," and I'm jealous of her.
Like, I see a girl sometimes who is 5'5" or so – a normal height – and she's just with some guy who is shorter than me but still much taller than her and I think that they look...right? Because to me, she is beautiful because she fits into something, and she looks happy and natural.
But I was also hungry all the time and depressed, so I started to eat normally again and now I'm "average" size.
And when you're an average sized tall girl, you feel like an awkward giant, and people look at you totally differently (in a not-good way).""I slouch a lot.
It would be nice to feel like I didn't have to be some fighter with a sword, and I could just be a normal woman sometimes."*Name has been changed.
Among the most important determinants of choosing a partner is appearance.
We've all seen very tall girls hunched over, pulling awkwardly at their clothes, or generally looking hyper-aware of the fact that they're taller than most of the guys around them – and hyper-aware that most of the guys probably aren't comfortable with it.
To learn more about what beauty means to tall girls, I spoke with my friend Cara* – who, at just around 6'1", fluctuates between a 10 and 12 US dress size – about the realities of living in her body.
So if I want a guy who doesn't really think of my height in any way, I have to date a guy who is 6'3 or above, which limits my pool a lot.""To be blunt, we [as a society] only like tall girls when they are very thin.
Then they become waify model types, which is perceived as the highest level of female beauty.
I've had periods of my life where I basically starved myself to get down to a size 4-6, which on my height is really thin, and it was like I was a celebrity.