Statements such as: 'lf you love me, I'm all you need', 'You are all I need.' are common.

As this behaviour gets worse, you may not be allowed to make personal decisions about the house, clothing, going to church or how you spend your time or money or even make you ask for permission to leave the house or room.

Alternately, he/she may theoretically allow you your own decisions, but penalise you for making the wrong ones.

Your abuser may be angry or upset if you are 'late' coming back from work, shopping, visiting friends, etc., even if you told him/her you would be later back than usual.

Your abuser may question you closely about where you were, whom you spoke to, the content of every conversation you held, or why you did something he/she was not involved in.

The abuser will often claim 'love at first sight', that you are 'made for each other', or that you are the only person whom he could ever talk to so openly, feel so at home with, could understand him so well.

He/she may tell you that they have never loved anyone so much or felt so loved by anyone so much before, when you have really only known each other for a short amount of time.

Very rarely will an abusive personality accept responsibility for any negative situation or problem.

If they are unemployed, can't hold down a job, were thrown out of college or University or fall out with their family, it is always someone else's fault, be it the boss, the government, or their mother.

He/she needs someone desperately, and will pressure you to commit to him/her or make love before you feel the relationship has reached 'that stage'.