Susan has been asked by close friends and family who are aware of the affair what drove a successful, attractive, intelligent woman to start and continue a relationship with a married man for nearly three years?

I was out there having fun, but now I’m in love with my wife, I have some experiences.

One guy was out on a date with a women he wasn’t too interested in when another woman walked by and he ended up marrying her. One guy messed up his marriage by making foolish career choices and he knows it, and wants to get married again.

So if you look at the genre of relationship advice, there’s a whole lot of it, just like there’s a whole lot of restaurants, but if you want what’s really good for you, the truly organic stuff, you’re not going to find that too many places.

VIBE: So what are some of the cliche relationship tips you’ve heard that isn’t in the book?

His time with her, whether texting, secret coffee dates, or time spent in her bed, reveals a commitment much deeper than the single men she has been with. They didn’t have to engage in clandestine plans and think of elaborate excuses.

And most single men confess they are initially very careful not to appear too interested, lest they find themselves headed for a commitment they're not ready for.Many people think love is an emotion, it’s a feeling. KS: So love is a choice and it’s a commitment to that choice, so even when they’re times I don’t feel like I love you, I still love you and in the chapter I set the tone by explaining love.There are feelings and emotions attached to love, but love in itself is a choice. When you claim you want love from a “good guy” and he has a proper understanding of what love is, you have to ask yourself are you really ready for that?There’s a certain accomplishment that comes with accumulating a new woman. If you’re a guy who needs that in his life, you don’t have the proper level of self-control and you’re going to cheat. Now, guys like me will say you absolutely did something against your woman, but until you get caught and you see her crying and throwing your clothes out the window. VIBE: When you explain it, it kind of makes sense but it’s not comforting at all. Most guys, if they’re boy is cheating they turn a blind eye VIBE: with the headline “Is This The Most Sexist Dating Advice Ever.” Do you think some of the advice in the book can be perceived as sexist?So a guy who cheats will say ‘I saw her across the room. Then you realize ‘I really did hurt her.’ My barber! Especially since one of your co-authors said Destiny’s Child’s ‘Cater 2 U’ should be on a woman’s playlist? If you look at only half of those things, but you should only be catering to a guy who’s reciprocating those actions.This is as close as women are going to get to three married men and five single men in a barber shop talking about relationships like it’s just us eight on the planet.